I’ve been in a five relationship before and now that I am currently in a relationship, I couldn’t tell the world that I am totally expert on that thing. Well, maybe a little bit experts but it does not guarantee that my relationship with someone is perfect. Of course there were flaws in every relationship but I believe that every failure you and I had faced before is another chance to stand and to correct your mistakes.
Here are some tips for the girls when you are in a relationship:
Do: be yourself.
Don't: start going au naturel.
Meaning, guys have this thing on their minds that there are things we do that make them crazy about us, and then there are things we do that, um, just really drive them crazy.
Do: try to hang out with their pals.
Don't: forget about us
Guys have a term for fellow male species—those traitors!—who ditch their friends to hang out with the fairer sex: CBF (Chicks before Friends). Don't you turn into the female equivalent! Your friends were there before we came along; they deserve nothing less than sterling, first-class bonding and quality time. At the same time, we do appreciate your valiant efforts to get along with our friends. It takes a very brave soul to hang out with that bunch of schmucks.
Do: say "Thank you!" when guys compliment you.
Don't: say, "You're just saying that 'cause you love me!"
Pre-couplehood, we were all kilig every time guys zinged us with a compliment. Post-couplehood, they just sigh out the word "beautiful" and we look like they just slapped us in the face with a wet fish. Guys think its genetic or something. They’re only guys, they’re not that deep. When they say we’re beautiful, they mean it.
Do: say something... even if a fight is on the way.
Don't: say nothing... but fight us anyway.
Maybe girls always like attention and sometimes we are oa on that thing, we started a fight even there is nothing to fight for. When guys asked us what’s wrong with us we just simply blame them and starting to argue with them without even explaining what’s wrong with the situation. The silent treatment is a girl's deadliest weapon. It's like a stealthy nuke: before guys even know what hit them, there's an ash-covered crater where our good mood used to be. It's good to know what guys were apologizing for, just so it will make sense. They don't read minds or vibe feelings.
Do: tell them about your day.
Don't: demand minute-to-minute updates.
Ha-ha! I am guilty on this part, I think girls just want to make sure that their guys are really into them that is why it’s a yes for them to check minute to minute what’s going on to their boyfriend. But girls, if you really want a healthy relationship, we must have a trust on them even they were not trustworthy (just kidding!). Telling each other about our respective days is a dynamic that should flow naturally, bursting out from the heart like how we fell in love.
Do: stay as pretty as you are.
Don't: ask, "Is that girl prettier than me?"
It’s a no-no to compare ourselves to someone else! Boys love how we stay beautiful for them and we’re not competing to other girls that we keep on asking them "Is that girl prettier than me?"
Let’s turn the table; here are the five habits guys ought to pick up when they get into a relationship.
DO: Start getting a fashion sense.
DON'T: Shop for clothes without your girlfriend.
I think more girls are fashionistas than a guy that is why it is better to ask advice from your girlfriend when picking up clothes.
DO: Learn how to write sweet, swoon-y letters.
DON'T: Use "dude, pare, tsong-astig!" when talking to your GF.
Yeah, we know you’re not that deep but a simple letter coming from what you really feel will makes our heart fall for you again and again. Be sweet, be natural but don’t use words that you already used with your ex or you’re actually using with your friends. Your words should be unique.
DO: Start using facial wash, lip balm, and moisturizer-they really work!
DON'T: Get your eyebrows waxed... that's just too girly.
Vanity nowadays is not just for the girls alone; guys must be clean and neat but too much is always a bad thing. Don’t make yourself as beautiful as your girlfriend literally.
DO: Text her "Happy monthsary!" before she does.
DON'T: Draw a blank when she asks, "What song was playing when we first kissed?"
DO: Get her flowers.
DON'T: Believe her when she tells you she doesn't really like flowers (every girl likes flowers!)
We like flowers but we like more the efforts you put on it. We don’t care about the cost or the kinds of flowers you gave but we care more about the thoughts you have.
karen balmes bj 3-1d